A friend of mine posted the following question on Facebook today:
“Should women get offended when their significant others suggest weight loss?”
Needless to say, this sparked quite the conversation. There were some very insightful comments made by several people who shared their thoughts on why women (or men) should or shouldn’t be offended.
My initial response on this is that it depends on the way the concern is presented. There are three general reasons that may prompt your significant other to suggest weight loss. It is either out of concern for your health; they are not feeling as attracted to you, or a combination of both.
Whichever applies it is still necessary to hear them out even when it hurts. Now, if it is being presented in a hurtful way, then you have every right to be offended and address them on their rudeness. However, there is a difference between being intentionally mean, threatening, or hurtful, versus being genuine about the concern.
Sometimes the problem with the attractiveness factor is we lose our confidence when our weight reaches a certain point. When we don’t feel good, it shows in our actions and attitude. Likewise, when we feel good about how we look then we are happier and more active. Suggesting weight loss may not necessarily be about reaching your prior weight, as much as it could be about reaching a weight that makes you feel confident again.
In the event that your significant other also has weight concerns, this may be a great opportunity for the two of you to get fit together. It will benefit you both by bringing you together and helping you both to feel and look your best. Remember, looks are what attracted our significant other in the first place so appearance should not be completely ignored due to the hustle and bustle of life.
Increased weight cannot always be prevented especially when a woman has recently given birth, or in the case of a man or woman who is taking a certain medication. However, it is important to take steps to maintain a healthy weight so as not to create risks for additional health problems down the line, such as heart disease and diabetes.
Another health concern, for which weight gain is an indicator, is depression. There are times when depression can lead to excess eating or other unhealthy habits such as drinking alcohol in excess. When a person experiences unforeseen increases in their weight, it is reasonable for your significant other to notice and address their concerns so they can help you overcome any existing stress factors.
Weight is a sensitive topic for many of us. If your significant other suggests weight loss to you, do yourself a favor and take a quick step back from the emotion of the situation, to truly verify where they are coming from. Hopefully, you will find your significant other is sincere in caring about you and your relationship. This is why I do recommend weight loss supplements like leptoconnect. But in choosing so, you need to look for a brand that is highly recommended and is very reliable. It is better to choose a weight loss supplement that is made from natural ingredients.
If you sincerely feel your significant other does not have your best interest at heart, then the relationship likely has deeper issues that need to be addressed.
Have you ever asked your significant other to lose weight or have you been the one that was asked?